Many unmarried Christian adults are dissatisfied with their state of singleness, and attempt to find ways to solve this problem by dating and going from relationship to relationship in hopes of getting married. Marriage will, in their eyes, solve this most obnoxious problem in their lives and finally things will be all better. Not at all! Marriage is great and beautiful when it’s within God’s proper timing, and with two prepared (not perfect) individuals who desire to commit themselves selflessly for the well being of the other. Thus, unmarried Christian adults have to make The Resolve.
Resolve means to have a firm determination to do something. It is the act of settling or finding a solution to (a problem, dispute, or contentious matter). Additionally, resolve is the determination and decision regarding a matter. Synonyms include settle, sort out, solve, find a solution to, fix, straighten out, deal with, put right, put to rights, and rectify.
So what exactly needs to be resolved?
Unmarried/single adults need to resolve, settle, and firmly agree with their marital status. Why? Unfortunately, the focus is frequently how to become unsingle by dating, getting in a relationship, and/or getting married. As I indicated above, this is not bad. However motivation needs to be evaluated.
What are you motivated to address?
• Loneliness
• Low Self-Esteem
• Biological Clock
• Financial Woes
How do you resolve and become satisfied in you marital state?
• Improve the stewardship of your thoughts and emotions. (Philippians 4:8)
• Recognize where your true worth and value comes from. (Psalm 139:13,14)
• Trust in God’s timing! (Isaiah 49:23)
• Address your poor financial stewardship. Tithe! Save! Manage! (Proverbs 13:11 & Malachi 3:10,11)
• Stay focused on the goal, purpose, and task at hand! (Jeremiah 29:11 & Ephesians 2:10)
Sure there is nothing wrong with wanting to “spend your life with someone.” However, this is a great season of your life in which you can develop deepened friendships with like-minded individuals of both genders.
You want children? According to the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute there are “400,540 children are living without permanent families in the foster care system, 115,000 of these children are eligible for adoption, but nearly 40% of these children will wait over three years in foster care before being adopted." Sure these children may not be your own, and may have developed their personality, endured various forms of hardship, and may not be cute and cuddly babies. However, their lives still require leadership and guidance for their future. If you want cute and cuddly, get a dog, SERIOUSLY.
Having a pet will teach you discipline and structure, and provide limited companionship. Travel! There’s a great big world out there God created, so go and explore it! This can be done as a missionary or for your own personal entertainment and enrichment.
But most importantly be content. Paul, a satisfied, successful, and set-apart single for Christ wrote:
I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:11-13 NCV
Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content.
1 Timothy 6:6-8 NKJV
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