The Truth About Fear

Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors Thursday: The Truth About Fear

I can remember being a little girl who would often succumb to fear. If I would see another school kid in public I would often hide behind my mother and refuse to speak. Once when asked to recite a speaking part in a Kindergarten program, during the practice I would spend several minutes crying excessively refusing to recite my part which I knew very well. I began to grow out of it as I had gotten older and more comfortable with my peers and teachers in school. However, transition always proved to be difficult for me. When going to high school and later to college I began to turn inward, introverted, reserved, and shy. It was safer to self-preserve from threat and discomfort. I respond now by being a risk taker. When I feel fear arising I try to do the opposite, and be bold and not allow time to past because it can make it even more difficult to progress.

What is fear?

Fear is defined by Webster as to feel afraid or apprehension; it is an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by or the anticipation or awareness of danger; implies anxiety and loss of courage.

Synonyms include:

• Dread
• Fright
• Alarm
• Terror
• Trepidation
• Anxiety
• Panic 

Anxiety is a painful apprehension, uneasiness of mind over an impending or anticipated ill. It is also defined as fearful concern or interest, and abnormal or overwhelming sense of apprehension or fear often marked by physiological signs (sweating, tension, and increased impulse).

Panic is defined as the sudden overpowering fright, unreasonable terror, of relating to or resembling the mental or emotional state induced by the god Pan. What?

A note about Pan: Pan has been described as a pagan god in Greek mythology and was believed to be responsible for sudden, inexplicable fear or panic. But, we are not called to idolatry. We are called to have holy fear, respect, and reverence to the One True God (Exodus 20:3-5 KJV). DO NOT BOW TO FEAR!!! Healthy fear is that of reverence and respect, awe to the true and living God, not associated with self-preservation due to an impending, irrational, and overpowering threat.

Hebrew words for fear:

• `Arats: to tremble, dread, fear, oppress, prevail, break, be terrified, cause to tremble.
• Yare': to fear, revere, be afraid.

Greek words for fear:

• Deilia: timidity, fearfulness, cowardice.
• Phobos:  fear, dread, terror; that which strikes terror

Mask of Fear

The Spirit of Fear may attempt to mask itself in terms like reserved, introversion, and shy. Introversion is the state or tendency toward being completely concerned with and interested in one’s own mental life; turned inward or upon self, a reserved or shy person. Shy means to shrink away from contact with others, to be timid (easily frightened or fearful), hidden (reserved), and hesitant (bashful).

In the psychological and psychiatry sphere of mental health there is a host of Anxiety Disorders in which I will discuss in-depth later in the month. But, they include:

• Generalized Anxiety Disorder
• Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
• Panic Disorder
• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Social Phobia (or Social Anxiety Disorder)

How are we called to respond to fear?

1. Read what God told Joshua.

Be strong (confident) and of good courage, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land which I swore to their fathers to give them. Only you be strong and very courageous, that you may do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you. Turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go. This Book of the Law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may observe and do according to all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall deal wisely and have good success. Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very courageous. Be not afraid, neither be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Joshua 1:5-9 AMP

2. This is Paul’s words to Timothy.

That is why I would remind you to stir up (rekindle the embers of, fan the flame of, and keep burning) the [gracious] gift of God, [the inner fire] that is in you by means of the laying on of my hands [with those of the elders at your ordination].For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.

2 Timothy 1:5,6 AMP

3. John wrote the following in an epistle.

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

1 John 4:16-18 NIV

Fear should not be ignored or minimized. It can have paralyzing effects that prevents us from experiencing the fullness of our callings in God. It can cause us to hold back and withdraw, because of our intent to protect ourselves which is our self-image and pride. This is often because of the fear of making a mistake, shame that may result, and the fear of the inability to cope with it. BE STRONG AND VERY COURAGEOUS!!!

You Deserve it All by Christ for the Nations

Wonderful Worship Wednesday
I love the opening lines of this song. It indicates the beautiful creative power of God. Enjoy!!!

You decorate the skies with shades unknown

Your eyes are light at the dawn when I arise

Creation leads a symphony in song

And in awe I whisper my love because

You deserve it all

You deserve it all

You deserve it all

You deserve it all

Christ For The Nations is an international, interdenominational organization which exists to train and equip men and women with the Word of God in the power of the Holy Spirit and with a lifestyle of worship, to reach the nations with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. To learn more about Christ for the Nations please visit them at www.cfni.org. 

Pure Religion: Caring for the Fatherless

Teachable Moment Tuesday


Although, I'm rather young, I really care about marginalized youth. Those who are abandoned, abused, overlooked, and neglected. Many children experience the absence of a parent from their physical environment, but I find it can also occur with emotional and intellectual abandonment. According to June Hunt, author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook, indicates that we all need love, significance, and security.


For some reason my heart began to burn as I thought about children, adolescents, and young adults that I've encountered who were abandoned and/or neglected by their parents and/or guardians. The reasons vary, death, addictions, or being deemed an unfit parent. However, some individuals abuse their power as adults, and physically, sexually, and/or emotionally abuse children and adolescents. Either way their souls are fragmented, and their development is stifled and thwarted. Often times it leads to depression and anger, suicide and homicide, and other self-destructive behavior. It's because they feel unloved, unwanted, and many times unworthy to live.


I ask that those of us who have the opportunity to impact the younger generation to be considerate of them, and show them the GENUINE and PURE love, significance, and security they were designed to experience. God is truly concerned about the fatherless (parent-less). 

Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, [and] to keep himself unspotted from the world.

James 1:27 KJV

Impacting Your Work Environment this Christmas Season

Ministry@Work Monday: Impacting Your Work Environment this Christmas Season

I'm always thinking of different ways to minister and impact my colleagues at work. Since my student worker days while in undergrad, I've always had an opportunity to either offer sound counsel, prayer, and encouragement. My goal has always been to glorify God. So, I began thinking how can I make an impact this Christmas Season. Thus, I'll be sharing some ideas I've gathered that you may be able to use as well.

1. Give away Christmas music that glorifies Christ, and not just holiday music.

You'll find me at any point singing "Chestnuts roasting on an open fire" or "The weather outside is frightful, but the season is so delightful." However, these songs fail to glorify the birth of the Savior that this holiday indicates that it was designed to do. Some suggested music includes Kari Jobe's Bethlehem, Chris Tomlin's Glory to the Highest, or Israel and New Breed's A Timeless Christmas. 

2. Twelves Days of Christmas

While working for an employer one year, apart of our gift exchange each day we secretly gave very small inexpensive gifts to our gift exchange recipient. Perhaps, you can give small inexpensive gifts with scriptural notes that glorifies the character of Jesus Christ.

3. Calendars/Pocket Planners

This could be the gift that keeps on giving. Whether it is a daily dose of biblical encouragement, a psalm or proverbs of wisdom, this would be a practical item in which seeds would be sown to win an individual to Christ, and or encourage one who may have a personal relationship with Christ.

4. Personalized Letter, Card, and Framed Poetry 

Be creative and be led by the Holy Spirit. Write a personalized prophetic letter to an individual. Pray and ask God what he would like to say to the individual. Listen to hear, look to see, and sense to feel. Print is on nice stationary, handwrite it in a nice card or frame it as artwork. Here's an example: 

5. Bible Study.

This season we will certainly see many nativity scenes of Joseph, Mary, and Baby Jesus. But, Jesus was not a baby forever. Jesus at the age of twelve was found in the temple talking with teachers (Luke 2:40-52 KJV), Jesus did a sermon on a mountain (Matthew 5:1-7:29). Jesus was also a healer, deliver, and is the Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6). Use this as a opportunity for discipleship. Take someone to lunch, study and teach the word, and use this as an opportunity to widen their view of the little baby Jesus to a Lord and Savior full of majesty and power. 

These are just a few ideas on how to impact your work environment this Christmas Season. Remember we've been commissioned.

Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

Matthew 28:19, 20 KJV

I Need You (Prophetic Worship) by Joann Rosario-Condrey

Worshipper. Minister. Songwriter. Joann Rosario-Condrey can be heard releasing prophetic worship during the live recording at the Harmony Conference in Indianapolis, IN. Enjoy!!!

Joann Rosario-Condrey is the wife of Corey "CoCo Brother" Condrey. She has recored three albums. Joann's more popular songs include More, More, More, I Hear You Say, and God. She was formerly a background singer in Radical for Christ with Fred Hammond. Joann has also been known for singing at Maranatha World Revival Ministries in Chicago, the church pastored by her father Nahum Rosario.

Confusing Intensity for Love

As she described the relationship with her boyfriend, she continued to justify and minimize the intensity of their relationship. Mya, a 16 year old Junior at Craven High School, had been dating Jonathan, a 17 year old Senior, for only six months. Mya had been recommended to speak with the school's guidance counselor after her swimming coach observed several fairly large bruises to Mya's arms, legs, and shoulders. 

When questioned about the bruising Mya excused the bruises to making a clumsy fall. However, that story changed in later weeks. Mya shared that Jonathan became angry one night when she'd asked him to take her home, and because of her continued questioning he became violent. According to Mya, he apologized to her excessively promising never to do it again. She assured that she trusted him.

Mya began missing several days of school. She shared with her guidance counselor that she'd had been asked by Jonathan to skip school to hang out with him. Mya also shared that Jonathan would send her text messages frequently during the school day inquiring of her whereabouts, and only wanted her to walk home from school with him. When asked about other relationships with friends, Mya responded that Jonathan did not care much for her friends because they were too immature. Mya advised that she liked the attention and Jonathan only did it because he loved her. 

Mya had fallen prey to Confusing Intensity for Love. The common thread found among teen dating violence. Mya and Jonathan are fictional characters, but this story is true to several teens and tweens. 

What is Teen Dating Violence?

Between Friends, a Domestic Violence agency in Chicago, describes teen dating violence as the repeated pattern of mental, physical, emotional, sexual, or economic abuse where one dating partner makes the other partner feel scared, weak, isolated, hurt, or sad. 

A Few Statistics

The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, loveisrespect.org provides the following statistics:

• 1 in 5 teens who have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner. 
• 1 in 3 girls who have been in a serious relationship say they've been concerned about being physically hurt by their partner. 
• 1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say their boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to only spend time with their partner. 
• 1 in 3 girls between the ages of 16 and 18 say sex is expected for people their age if they're in a relationship; half of teen girls who have experienced sexual pressure report they are afraid the relationship would break up if they did not give in. 
• Nearly 1 in 4 girls who have been in a relationship (23%) reported going further sexually than they wanted as a result of pressure.

These are just a few statistics and serves as a brief introduction to provide some awareness of some alarming activity among teens. I'll continue to share more about myths and facts, warning signs, and the cycle of abuse later. But I'll leave you with a response to this intensity and an account of true love:

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always "me first," Doesn't fly off the handle, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 MSG

I Pity the Fool: The Need to Show Mercy to a Fallen World

I Pity the Fool is an urban phrase made popular by the A Team's character Mr. T. This phrase was often used when the actions of one would lead to relatively injurious and/or deadly consequences. 

THE [empty-headed] fool has said in his heart, There is no God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable deeds; there is none that does good or right.

Psalm 14:1 AMP

As indicated in Psalm 14:1, a fool in his heart says there is no God. The Amplified Bible indicates that a fool is empty-headed. Fool is defined as a silly, stupid or a ridiculous person. Synonyms include blockhead, bonehead, buffoon, clown, dimwit, dope, idiot, imbecile, jerk, moron, nincompoop, nitwit, numskull, and victim. 

I'm sure we all know someone who fits this profile. We may have even called someone a fool or one of those other names. This individual may make statements and gestures that mock the existence of God. They curse our God with ridiculous, irrational, and empty-headed words. Their lifestyles are the very contrary of godliness and provide a picturesque view of life apart from God.  

Nevertheless, the question stands, how do we respond to these individuals? Ignore their ignorance as sheer ignorance. Dim our light of influence in order not to be offensive. Say to ourselves "well, if they only knew God." Well, that's just it they don't know God!

One of the synonyms for fool that stood out to me was that of victim. Victim is defined as a person who suffers from an injurious action or event or a person who is cheated. What has these individuals suffered and/or have been cheated? Were they denied love, security, and significance during major development stages of life? Did they experience neglect and remained unlearned and were left to their own devices to develop their own theories and standards for living? There may be many reasons for their foolishness, but we have a responsibility.

Hosea 4:6 KJV indicated that "people are destroyed for lack of knowledge." Other versions and translations of the Bible states perished, ruined, and rejected. Thus, we should pity these fools. Pity means to have a feeling of mercy toward another. Synonyms include benevolence, charity, comfort, compassion, empathy, favor, forbearance, goodness, grace, kindness, sadness, sympathy, and understanding. 

We should show love (charity), compassion, kindness and mercy to those set before us, who appear to be foolish and ignorant, and simply do not know God. The repercussion for their ignorance and foolishness is a deadly consequence, which is eternal damnation. They truly are unaware of the truth and knowledge of God. I believe the greatness miracle is the miracle of salvation, because it is the quickening (becoming alive) of a dead spirit to life.

Let's not ignore the cries of these tormented souls. Let's not forget that we too once was 

ignorant and foolish. Let's remember that God loved us with an everlasting love, and by His lovingkindness we were drawn (Jeremiah 31:3 NKJV). Let's offer a personal relationship with Christ that brings everlasting life, consolation, and peace. 

Perfect Praise (How Excellent) by Soul Children of Chicago

This is certainly an oldie but goodie!!! It's a classic that I remember from childhood, and one of my favorites. Enjoy!!!

Attitude by Charles Swindoll

Writings that Have Impacted My Life: Attitude by Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.

Background by Lecrae featuring C-Lite

Wonderful Worship Wednesday

With the release of his forth album Rehab, Lecrae includes a beautiful ballad of sorts that highlights the necessity for us as Christians to operate in humility. I find that this song makes me want to continually submit myself to the leading and control of the Holy Spirit in everything I do. However, often times I do forget my role and take the lead. This song makes me want to be more like John the Baptist in John 3:30 KJV "He must increase, but I must decrease." I pray that you enjoy this song. 

Lecrae Moore is an artist and co-founder of ReachRecords and ReachLife Ministries. Lecrae is from Houston, TX and attended the University of North Texas. Lecrae and his wife currently leads a small group at Blueprint Church in Atlanta, GA. Lecrae is currently finishing up the Unashamed 2010: The Movement Tour, which has had sell-out crowds across the nation. Lecrae is likely well-know for tracks Represent, Jesus Musik, and Praying for You. To learn more about Lecrae please visit www.reachrecords.com.

Choking Game: Warning Signs, Aliases, and Biblical Intervention

Teachable Moment Tuesday

This week I will continue the discussion from two weeks ago regarding the Choking Game. This week I've included some warning signs and a list of other names in which children and adolescents refer to the "game".

Warning Signs

• Discussion of the game or its aliases
• Bloodshot eyes and/or other sign of eye stress
• Marks on the neck which may be hidden by turtlenecks, scarves, or turned-up collars.
• Wearing high-necked shirts, even in warm weather
• Complaints of severe headaches, observation of loss of concentration, and flushed face
• Disorientation after spending time alone
• Change in personality marked by increased and uncharacteristic agitation or hostility
• Unexplained presence of dog leashes, choke collars, bungee cords, ropes, scarves, and belts tied to furniture or doorknobs
• A thud in the bedroom or against a wall—meaning a fall in cases of solitary practice.
• Any questions about the effects, sensations or dangers of strangulation.

Aliases

• Pass-out game
• Space monkey
• Suffocation roulette
• Scarf game
• The American dream
• Fainting game
• Something dreaming game
• Purple hazing
• Blacking out/blackout
• Dream game
• Flat liner
• California choke
• California High
• Space cowboy
• Airplaning
• Purple dragon
• Cloud nine
• Funky Chicken
• Tingling
• Gasp

Why are children and adolescent engaging in this behavior?

According to G.A.S.P, an international not-for profit created to put an end to the Choking Game, some children and adolescents do it for the high, which can become addictive. Others, continues G.A.S.P., indicates that it is “cool” and risky. G.A.S.P. reports most of the victims who died from playing the Choking Game were active, intelligent, stable children and adolescents who thought it was a safe alternative to the use of alcohol and other drugs.

So, what can we do to prevent and intervene this behavior?

1. Start talking and discuss the risk.

Point your kids in the right direction— when they're old they won't be lost.

Proverbs 22:6 MSG

2. Teach them about their identity in Christ.

But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.

1 Peter 2:9 NKJV

3. Support them, let them know you love them and care for them.

Do everything in love.

1 Corinthians 16:14 NIV 

4. If you identify there are deeper issues and/or concerns seek help from pastoral or professional (godly) counselors.

Where no wise guidance is, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

Proverbs 11:14 AMP

5. And above all, PRAY!!!

Pray without ceasing.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 NIV

I'm Running Late: The Importance of Punctuality at Work

Ministry@Work Monday

Every Monday I know I have to attend an Orientation/New Clinicians Group at the agency where I work. Almost every Monday I race out the house at about 8:30ish. I expect to travel via the Lake Shore Drive and I-55 from the Southeast side of Chicago to Berwyn, a western suburb, in thirty minutes and expect to arrive on time for my 9:00 AM meeting. The same thing goes for my weekly team meeting on Wednesday. It’s scheduled for 9:00 AM, too. I’m usually scooting out the door at about 8:30. I’ll arrive in a nick of time, slide in a seat next to my supervisor, flash her a smile, and say “Hey,” just a few seconds before she says “Ok, let’s get started." Whew. I think "Sweat of my brow. I made it."  I know some of my fellow co-workers are going to be tardy as well. We text each other as we travel through rush hour traffic saying “Hey, I’m running behind. Can you tell . . . I’m going to be late? TTYL.” We may reply back to each other, “I’m running late, too. Whoever gets there first . . .” You can figure out the rest. Certainly, most of our team leaders and supervisors are very easy going, and understanding. However, punctuality is a very important characteristic to have in the workplace.

Punctuality comes from the root word punctual which means to be on time, and simply prompt.

Kristen M. Anderson writes in her article Why Punctuality Gains Respect in the Workplace the following:

1. Punctuality is polite. When you show up on time, you send the message, "Your time is important to me. I want to be on time because I respect your time."
2. Being on time indicates that you take deadlines seriously. Showing that you understand the value of a deadline will position you to receive important assignments, raises, and promotions.
3. Being on time shows your employer that you value what he or she is paying you. Punctuality is often perceived as loyalty, particularly if other employees are constantly late.
4. Punctuality shows you can be trusted with work from clients and other work groups.
5. Punctuality will help you get more done.
6. Being on time provides an opportunity to prepare for meetings. With more time to review the agenda and prepare your presentation, you will appear much more polished than your colleagues who rush into meetings late.
7. Punctuality offers opportunities for networking. Some of the most important networking happens before and after meetings take place.

This article was written for the general public, and of course as Christians we are held to a higher standard. Certainly, we may encounter various mishaps that may cause us to be late. I know for me I usually get distracted with changing my clothes, trying to make breakfast/lunch at the last minute, or watching one more feature on Good Morning America.

I've asked God to help me with integrity and character. I’ve been allowed to see where I can make some improvements, and punctuality is one of them. I would certainly like to gain respect among my colleagues. Not for my personal benefit, but to be able to prove my ability to be responsible to take on important tasks and represent the Kingdom of God as a leader in the workplace. Punctuality may seem to be just a minor factor in our everyday work lives, but as indicated by Kristen M. Anderson it can be a key to excelling.

Seest thou a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men.

Proverbs 22:29 KJV

Overcoming Rejection by Frank D. Hammond

Suggested Reading Sunday

I gave my life to Christ 8 years ago when I was 18 years old. At the start of my Christian walk I became very interested in understanding myself in relation to Christ. I wanted to live my life in fullness and wanted to understand the impact that demonic influence had on my life and how to break free. I’ve always had a desire to walk in wholeness in body, soul, and spirit (1 Thessalonians 5:23 KJV). I’ve also had a great desire to see myself and others work out our soul salvation (Philipians 2:12 KJV). The earliest writings I added to my library included books by Richard Ing, Derek Prince, Frank D. and Ida Mae Hammond and John Eckhardt. The titles included Identifying and Breaking Curses, Spiritual Warfare, and Pigs in the Palor. One of my favorite books of that collection was Overcoming Rejection by Frank D. Hammond.

The book begins addressing the need to heal inner wounds. It compared the urgent care we take to treat physical wounds in order to prevent infection. However, according to Hammond, inner wounds required the same immediate response with forgiveness to the offending party to avoid the infection of resentment, bitterness, and/or hatred. Hammond continued in identifying the root of rejection with the denial of love and its impact to healthy development. Hammond continued that rejection could have its earliest roots in children at conception either by an unwanted pregnancy (conceived early in marriage, financial strains on family, mother-to-be fears, and attempted and/or contemplated abortion.) Hammond also identified other causes of rejection to included children born with disabilities, victims of abuse, peer rejection, marital separation/divorce, and church related hurts.

The remainder of the book addressed how one can react to their experienced rejection, and their attempt to make error-full readjustments to the wound. The reactions can include, as indicated above, responses of resentment, bitterness, and hatred. According to Hammond, it could also include self-pity, inferiority, insecurity, and hopelessness. In order to compensate for one’s experienced rejection, Hammond notes, many would attempt to fulfill the voids in their life through perfectionism, lust of material goods, sexual lust, self-promotion, and more. Hammond completed the book by explaining the ramifications of responding and making wrong readjustments to rejection. The conclusion of the book identified the restoration process to overcoming rejection. Hammond suggested that overcoming rejection should come from forgiveness, repentance, reconciliation, learning and receiving God’s love, and learning how to provide and expect healthy love to and from others.

This is truly a great book!!! My life, at that point 8 years ago, was experienced through a lens of being confused, misunderstood, and rejected. I wanted to understand what rejection was and how to break free from it. I remember reading this book in one day, and I remember crying and experiencing great breakthroughs in relation to my experience. I began to identify some potential causes for my experience of rejection. I’d learned how I’d responded through insecurity, inferiority, and resentment, and coped by attempting to be perfect and appear perfect. I began to experience freedom. I know I will be rereading this book very soon and suggest you should give it a read, too. I’m telling ya’ll it’s a page turner and a life changer.

You Are For Me by Kari Jobe

Wonderful Worship Wednesday

The song I feature today is entitled You Are For Me written and recorded by Kari Jobe.

The opening lyrics are so beautiful. The words are simple, but powerful. The words highlight the character and faithfulness of God, shows His love and kindness toward each of us, and the intimate involvement He can have in our life, especially in solidifying His promises to us. I hope you enjoy.

So faithful, so constant
So loving and so true, so powerful in all you do
You fill me, You see me
You know my every move, You love for me to sing to you


I know that you are for me, I know that you are for me
I know that you will never forsake me in my weakness
I know that you have come down
Even if to write upon my heart
To remind me who you are

Kari Jobe is the Worship Pastor at Gateway Church in Southlake, TX. She had known since the age of 10 that she wanted to be a Worship Leader. Kari's dad was a traveling minister which allow her to begin singing at the age of 3. Kari Jobe studied at Oral Roberts University, Christ for the Nations, and Dallas Baptist University where she completed her degree in Psychology and Pastoral Ministries. She is probably better known for her songs Healer and Revelation Song. To learn more about Kari Jobe visit 

www.karijobe.com.

Have a Wonderful Worship Wednesday!!!

Ministry@Work Monday: A Little Monday Morning Encouragement

Ministry@Work Monday

Each Monday I will like to take a look at effective ways to minister at work. The topics can range from one-on-one discipleship to integrity in the workplace. Though, this morning I will like to offer a little Monday Morning Encouragement. Many of us are preparing to head to work this morning, later this afternoon, or even this evening. However, if you’re looking for work and things just don’t seem to be turning up, I hope to encourage you, too.

1. Start your day off in prayer dedicating your work to the Lord. Whether you’re facing a “To Do” list with a thousand tasks, a micromanager who thinks you’re incompetent, or a client/customer who just doesn’t ever appear to be satisfied, know that the Lord has your reward.

And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

Colossian 3:17, 23, 24 KJV

2. Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed? Cast your cares, concerns, and anxieties upon the Lord.

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.] Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. For My yoke is wholesome (useful, good--not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.

Matthew 11:28-30 AMP

3. Know that you are to prosper!!!

Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.

3 John 2 NKJV

4. Work with honesty and integrity.

GOD cares about honesty in the workplace; your business is his business.

Proverbs 16:11 MSG

5. If you are unsure of your purpose, God has plans for you.

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.

Jeremiah 29:11 AMP

For we are God's [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].

Ephesians 2:10 AMP

Father, I pray that we will know that this is the day that You have made and we will rejoice and be glad in it (Psalm 118:24). That we will know that there is no obstacle, trial, and burden that You cannot handle, and that we will learn to be still and know that you are God (Psalm 46:10). I pray that we are steadfast in doing good for Your glory and that we work with honesty to please You. Lord, You have great plans for each of us!!! Your plans are to prosper us!!! We are your craftsmanship and handiwork recreated in Christ to do good works that You planned before the beginning of time. Father, I pray that you will lead us to the path that we may walk in those plans.

I thank you, Father, in advance. In Jesus’ Name I pray. Amen.

Suggested Reading: Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones

Suggested Reading Sunday
I like to go to the bookstore and browse the shelves for a must read. I can spend a good amount of time at Borders, Barnes & Noble, or Family Christian Bookstores. I like to read and share information. So, each week I will suggest reading material, either books from my personal library and/or articles I’ve encountered. This week I'll like to suggest one of my favorite books Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right.

Lady in Waiting is written by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones. The purpose of the book is to emphasize the importance of deepening one's personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Authors, Kendall and Jones, brings to light the importance of women finding consolation for their hearts' desires and longings in making Jesus the Lord of their lives.


The book highlights ten characteristics of a reverent woman. Each of these qualities are connected to the life displayed by Ruth. The characteristics, which entitle each chapter, are reckless abandonment, diligence, faith, virtue, devotion, purity, security, contentment, conviction, and patience.


I absolutely love this book. It is also a book I frequently discuss with one of my best friends. We'll spend time discussing some of our favorite passages and share how each of those tidbits have impacted our understanding.


Another note to mention, I have the expanded addition that is pictured above. This addition includes several study questions at the end of each chapter, a journal, and an extended study section. The book is not just for reading, but to transform the thinking and to instill the development of godly character in the lives of women.

Set-Apart Singles: What does it mean to be single?

Set-Apart Singles Saturday

Each Saturday we will take a look at various topics related to the Christian Single Adult. 

Today, let's begin with a brief overview for understanding. We will also take a look at some of the advantages of being single in Christ.

What does it mean to be single?

 Webster provides the following definitions:

single: (adjective) not married; (noun) an unmarried person and especially one young and socially active.

Synonyms

unmarried: not now or previously married; being divorced or widowed.
unattached: not married or engaged
unwed

Side Note: I use a lot of definitions because it has been my experience that definitions bring clarity and understanding. Additionally, for the purpose of this entry, I would like to reinforce the understanding that persons that are in dating/courting relationships, who are divorced and/or widowed are defined as single. However, both terms single and unmarried will be used interchangeably, because unmarried is the term most commonly used in the Bible.

Worldly Advantages

• Opportunity to date and engage in uncommitted relationships
• Freedom to pursue education and career goals
• Independence to “Sow One’s Wild Oats”
• Liberty of a disposable income

These advantages aren’t all bad, but could be more advantageous if used to glorify God and establish the Kingdom of God.

Alright, let’s highlight some advantages to be unmarried as indicated in 1 Corinthian 7.

Kingdom Advantages

1. Singleness is a gift!

But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. But God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.

1 Corinthians 7:7 NLT

Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.

1 Corinthians 7:7 MSG

2. Paul writes that it is well and good to be single.

But to the unmarried people and to the widows, I declare that it is well (good, advantageous, expedient, and wholesome) for them to remain [single] even as I do.

1 Corinthians 7:8 AMP

3. Singles can live free of fewer concerns, anxieties, distressing cares, and complications; and live to please the Lord.

I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 

1 Corinthians 7:32 NIV

My desire is to have you free from all anxiety and distressing care. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord--how he may please the Lord.

 1 Corinthians 7:32 AMP

I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 

1 Corinthians 7:32 NLT

I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 MSG

4. Singles are called to live pure, holy, and self-controlled lives devoted to the Lord.

And the unmarried woman or girl is concerned and anxious about the matters of the Lord, how to be wholly separated and set apart in body and spirit . . . Now I say this for your own welfare and profit, not to put [a halter of] restraint upon you, but to promote what is seemly and in good order and to secure your undistracted and undivided devotion to the Lord.  

1 Corinthians 7:34, 35 AMP

The unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.

1 Corinthians 7:34, 35 MSG

5. Paul wrote a single person can be happier, more blessed, and to be envied!!!

But in my opinion [a widow] is happier (more blessed and to be envied) if she does not remarry. And also I think I have the Spirit of God.

 1 Corinthians 7:40 AMP

These advantages may be difficult for some to believe and accept because of the culture that consumes our lives. However, we are called to have our minds renewed "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God" Romans 12:2 KJV. Additionally, this is in no way a frown upon marriage, but the goal to help solidify the identity and purpose of the Set-Apart Christian Single Adult. I also, encourage you to read 1 Corinthians 7 in it’s entirely for continuity and contextual purposes.